“But He gives more grace. Therefore it says, ‘God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.’” James 4:6 //
This Sunday was a special one! From our biological fathers to spiritual fathers, we are so thankful for the men in our church who cover, encourage and love us, and we loved celebrating each of them this Father’s Day. Throughout our morning, we heard from Kirk Freeman, lead pastor of Crossbridge Community Church. He shared on his parenting journey and ways he has exasperated, or caused frustration, in his children.
While Kirk spoke in reference to his children, we can all find ourselves doing these things in any relationship. Ultimately, each of these areas create an opportunity for God’s grace to heal our hearts and restore our relationships.
FIVE WAYS WE EXASPERATE OUR CHILDREN //
- We are not gentle // Gentleness is at the core of who the Father is. Philippians 4:5 says, “Let your gentleness be evident to all.” We want to be people who reflect the characteristics of our Father, and not act out of frustration.
- Using shame as discipline // The heart of God is not to shame us, but to set us free. Romans 8:1 says, “There is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus,” but the number one lie we carry is the one that says we aren’t good enough. Shame reinforces that lie.
- We freeze people out // When we withhold fellowship and relationship out of frustration, it causes confusion. Galatians 6:1 tells us to, “restore gently.” God’s plan for us is restoration, and when we shut people out we don’t allow God to restore that place.
- We use sarcasm to make a point // God uses kindness to draw us back to Himself. Sarcasm indirectly tells people they are stupid and unimportant. We want to use words that are kind and encourage, rather than words that tear down.
- We pretend we aren’t wrong // When we choose to not admit our own shortcomings, we are actually allowing pride to manifest in our lives. James 4:6 tells us that there is more grace for the humble. We are free to come to God and admit our failures. He is faithful to show us grace.
GOD IS NOT THE REFLECTION OF OUR EARTHLY FATHER, HE IS THE PERFECTION OF HIM.
Regardless of the emotions that arise with Father’s Day, we can find assurance in the truth that God is our perfect Father, and He has grace for us. Whether in parenting, estranged relationships or something else, He always gives us more grace.
TAKE A LOOK AT A FEW OTHER HIGHLIGHTS FROM OUR MORNING //