Today, College Pastor Carl Gulley wrapped up our series with a message on crucial conversations. There are two sides to crucial conversations, the way we address them and the way we respond. These conversations aren’t always easy, but the reward is always worth the risk.
- Crucial conversations are when the stakes are high, opinions vary and emotions run strong. (From the book, Crucial Conversations, by Kerry Patterson)
- The peace you are longing for could require a crucial conversation on your part, whether we like it or not.
- The reward of these conversations is worth the risk it’s going to take.
- When a follower of Jesus holds the conviction that he or she needs to step into the awkward zone and have a crucial conversation, the result could effect their relationship with God and their relationships across the board.
- Questions, not accusations, lead to reconciliation.
- How to address crucial conversations (Abigail’s approach from 1 Samuel 25:18-35):
- 1) Come in humbly (The soft start-up. Harsh responses have a 96 percent chance of ending negatively.)
- 2) Ask questions
- 3) Briefly state the offense (Inlcude context and specific examples, but keep it brief.)
- 4) Give them a chance to respond
Carl left us with a challenge to welcome feedback and correction this week by asking three people the following question:
“What is it like to be on the other side of me?”
We all need help to see our blind spots. Who are the people in your life that can help you see yours? Ask them this question this week and take ownership of your actions. It’s worth it!